The work
What this work is, and who it helps
People-pleasing and perfectionism can leave you feeling like you are never good enough. You hold down the job, show up for the people who count on you, and keep the reputation for being the reliable one. Inside, you are running on empty, second-guessing everything, and wondering why fine does not feel like enough anymore.
When "never good enough" runs the show
A lot of the people I work with are capable and successful on the outside and quietly worn out inside. The anxiety hums in the background. The inner critic never lets up. When your worth rides on achievement and approval, it tends to leave you anxious, overwhelmed, and burned out. You have gotten so good at anticipating what everyone else needs that you have lost track of what you need.
How we will work together
I draw on Internal Family Systems (IFS) and attachment-based therapy. Rather than trying to argue yourself out of how you feel, we identify and understand the protective roles of perfectionism, people-pleasing, and self-criticism, and then access and heal the deeper emotions and wounds they have been protecting. As those parts feel understood, they soften, and you get more access to the calmer, steadier you underneath.
What I help with
- Anxiety and overthinking
- Perfectionism and people-pleasing
- Self-worth and the inner critic
- Relationship and attachment patterns
- Life transitions, including postpartum and identity shifts
You get a real person across from you, not a blank slate. This is evidence-based work, and I will be honest with you: I cannot promise a quick fix, but I can offer a steady place to set things down and start to work through them.